“Setting intentions”; people say it all the time… But what does it mean to set intentions?
Some of the women I work with have spent so much time and energy taking care of others that they don’t even know what they want for themselves. While it sounds noble to be so giving, it’s actually a pretty good way to find yourself on the road to burn out.
Self-care has a bad rap for sounding selfish. But it isn’t. Just as on the airplane they tell you to put the oxygen mask on yourself first, taking care of yourself each day is just as important. Not taking care of yourself can lead to illness, depression and even resentment. (Plus, if you’re a parent, you have to remember you are always teaching by example, so when your kids see the way you take care of yourself, is that the picture of what you want for them as they grow up?)
Keep in mind self-care is NOT being SELFISH, but it is knowing what you want and need, knowing how to set boundaries, and knowing how much you can handle.
No is a complete sentence. Sometimes it is ok to say “no, I can’t do that right now (or ever.)”
When you learn how to really take care of yourself it becomes easier to set intensions because you’ll start to be more in tune with yourself and knowing what you want or need. And when you know what you want/need it’s easier to set goals, or intensions, to start creating more of what you want in your life.
Now, back to what does it mean to set intentions…
The word intention literally means the internal content of a concept. It’s like having determination to do something.
When you hear people talking about setting intentions it just means that they are thinking to themselves, or rather ‘within’ themselves about something they want. They have a concept in their mind of what they want, and they are pondering it.
It is very powerful if you do this while you are relaxed or centered or in a meditative state.
The key is to bring that thought or concept about what you want and allow it to come into your heart. When you set an intension and bring love into it, where you really are giving the idea love, it creates amazing outcomes.
When you set an intention, for example, to be less stressed, allow yourself to think of it as an idea, and then allow it to float down into your heart. Feel what it might feel like to be less stressed. Feel into what actions might help you less stressed. Ask your heart what it thinks might be good for you in your specific situation, to help you create a less stressful environment. Once you have a couple of good ideas of what might help, allow yourself to relax even more and for a minute pretend that it already is. As you come out of this space of setting intensions, allow yourself to let go of the idea completely. Then over the next few days, as things come up, see where opportunities are for you to take action on some of the ideas that may have come up while you were in the process of setting intentions.
Till next time,
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